Dating tips for bigger guys
As a dating coach, I speak with amazing women over 50 daily about their dating lives.They communicate the desperation they are feeling about ever finding a good man to share their lives with.Some women — a lot of women — are into the Adam Levine type, all sinewy and girlish and exposed-pelvis-ness.I guess that is appealing in a slithery kind of way, like he will Alex Mack himself right out of his leather pants and want hot wax dripped on his chest during sex, or some other weird rock star fetish.
Sure enough, few women give a fair shake to a man who is 5’3”, no matter what else he has going for him. So I tried changing my profile for three days just to see what the difference was between being 5’3″ and 5’10”. And no amount of complaining is going to change it. And why, in God’s name, is it important to stand on your tiptoes to kiss a guy? Is there any legitimate reason not to go out with this amazing, amazing man? I'm glad more people are recognizing that being fat isn't a problem of being lazy and eating Cheetos off your chest all day, but it's also not always a medical condition. But if dudes continue to be dismissed when they try to talk about body issues, it's just going to make us care more, not less. "I like/love you even though you're fat." This is something that many dudes I know have explicitly heard.It goes back to the idea that if you're dating someone fat that their body size is the first barrier to attraction as opposed to just another body type.If you’re a regular reader, you probably knew that I was on the CBS Early Show in July. We wrote two new profile essays that were unique, funny and confident.
Appearing with me was one of my all-time favorite clients, Tom Pandolfo. We renamed him “Look Ma No Hair.” And we watched as his in-box filled up with interested women.Online dating has become a tremendous source of frustration and failure for them.